What legacy will you leave behind ?
That was last week’s cliffhanger from the previous post “Heart Issues”.
At some point of our lives, most of us have asked the following questions:
Why am I alive ?
What am I supposed to do with my life ?
What’s the meaning of life ?
Or any number of variation of those phrases….
Personally, I’ve always believed that I was born with a purpose. After all, my faith in God tells me that even before I was formed in my mom’s belly God knew me. He already had plans for me, plans to prosper me and not to harm me, plans to give me hope and a future. So believing that my life was intentional wasn’t difficult for me. This belief is what I centered my life around, it’s what gave me hope for the times I said to myself, “Obed you’re just another out of 7 billion.”
The idea that my life had purpose outside of myself, helped me believe that maybe, just maybe I could leave my mark on this earth. So I began to dream and dreamt big. I started believing that I could leave my broken family different than the way I found it, or that I could make a difference in my neighborhood. I would drive past tall, glass covered skyscrapers that seemed to touch the clouds in the city, sitting in the passenger's seat of my dad’s green 1999 Mazda 626 thinking to myself, “why can’t I own these?" so I dreamt, and I haven’t stopped dreaming since.
This is the same question that led me to create Integer Man. After hearing the complaints about toxic masculinity, after being a victim of toxic masculinity. I decided to do something about it and I believe this movement will change the way manhood is defined.
However, I am well aware that I am not the only one that wants to make a change. This is one of many efforts by millennials like myself, who understand the importance of our voice and the need to be the change that we want to see. This is why I can confidently say, this is the generation that will break the cycle. We might not get it all right all the time, we look like the rest, we got the same haircuts, same clothes, but trust me something’s different.
We will be present,
We will break down the “man box” and rebuke toxic masculinity,
We will be there for the women in our lives,
We will be there for our kids,
We will come together and uplift each other,
We will care for the needy,
We will love genuinely and intentionally,
We will reclaim manhood!
But in order to make these changes, it’s necessary that we chase our dreams so we can leave a legacy. There are people whose lives depend on our stories. They’re waiting for us to lead the way. Some people need someone to show them that it is possible to be freed from addiction. They need to hear your story so that they can truly believe that it’s possible to fight poverty; they need to hear your story and see you chase your dreams so that when they found out you were sexually abused too, they’ll be inspired to tell their story. There are people out there who need to us to chase our dreams.
I know it’s not easy. Building a legacy can cost you everything (just ask Martin Luther King Jr.), but it can change lives forever.
Whether you realize it or not, time is like a camera recording your story, the world is your stage, and your legacy will be the final product.
“The most valuable thing a man can leave behind, is a legacy that others can inherit and use as foundation to build upon.”—Obed Jean Pierre